We all come into this world a blank canvas. As we age and experience life, our mental picture slowly gets filled in. Precious memories splash colour across our minds and expand our way of thinking. Emotions are discovered through our innate abilities and the external world we’re surrounded by. What makes us “happy” is an accumulation of internal reactions and the way they respond to our environmental teachings. This is why no two people are the same. This is why different religions exist, different perspectives on the same situation, and why sometimes it’s impossible to see eye to eye. When one person’s idea of happiness is another person’s idea of stupidity, you realise happiness is nothing more than subjective; an illusion of truth. Happiness is a mere fabrication. It feels real, nevertheless. But ultimately it is an emotional response elicited by a hormonal reaction based on prior physical experiences, of which those experiences already had a pre-destined response founded by our genes.
This has a flip-side, which can prove good and bad. That being, emotions can be manipulated, or moulded. But first, we have to see reason for us to change the way we react to things and the way we see things. There is nothing concrete about emotions. The only thing we ever have in our power is the ability to “control”. But if we are a slave to our own biology, and our canvas is no longer blank, then a lot of strength and belief needs to be mustered in order to save ourselves from ourselves. However, if everything we believe is based on a subjective truth, how do we know we’d be changing for the “right” reasons?
So, how can we define what’s right and wrong, when they can be deconstructed by society, humility, majority, minority, culture, history etc. All these things that are mutable cannot be solid enough for definition. Thus, we need to identify what is infinite in this world. Maybe the only true thing in this life is that we exist? Albeit short, life is the longest thing we have and we sometimes have to learn to surround ourselves with those who think the same way as us. We will never be able to make everyone “understand” us. We will only ever be able to make some people see our level of reasoning.
Surround yourself with people similar to yourself, because you will naturally attract the company of those who are like-minded. Accept that not everyone thinks the same as you, and that can be a sad fact. Happiness is an ultimate goal of us all, but we all have different ways of attaining it. Love is made and broken based on the fact that we’re the same, but can change, and can sometimes change back again. But nothing is guaranteed. You cannot base your inner peace by communicating your beliefs with someone who doesn’t see things the way you do.
Always try and communicate and leave yourself open to listening to others. But remember you cannot control how other people think/feel, like they can’t change the way you do. Most importantly, do not get angry at the other person for being different. As hard as that is, it’s not their fault.
Sometimes we have to agree to disagree.
Sometimes we just have to walk away.