Open almost any discussion about modern dating and you'll eventually encounter the same advice: Men should "play the field", date widely, sleep with different women, gain experience, learn what you want. Women, meanwhile, receive a very different message - know what you're looking for, but don't have too many partners. Be experienced enough to be … Continue reading Does Dating More Make Us Wiser in Love? ♥️
Every time I open my phone, there seems to be another chart explaining how men and women supposedly choose a partner. They all look like they're trying to be scientific. Neat little graphs. Colour-coded priorities. Men, we're told, place physical attractiveness at the top of the list. Women, meanwhile, are said to prize kindness, intelligence, … Continue reading Women Are Visual Too 👀
Spend enough time online and you'll hear the same refrain repeated as though it's an unquestionable gospel: women are at their most desirable in their twenties. The implication is rarely subtle. After that, a countdown begins. Every birthday becomes another step away from relevance. Every laughter line becomes evidence of decline. Every passing year is framed as another reason to compete with younger women who simply happened to be born later.
Milestone moments navigate us. We don't know what matters to us until experiences come along that offer us a way to get to one of them. Perhaps you're in a pursuit of knowledge, so want to achieve goals in the shape of qualifications and a career to match. Or maybe a family is something you're … Continue reading Choose Yourself.
“When did emotions get this complicated?" "When did my needs from a relationship end up feeling this demanding?" "How can I get back to the person I used to be…before?" "What if I am seeing things as they really are, but I’m unable to action the correct response because I fear my judgement is skewed?” … Continue reading Living with PTSD in a Relationship ❤️🩹
Admittedly, love is a complex and multilayered emotion. It's based on many fundamental factors; some internal and some external - all of them fluctuating courtesy of time, circumstance and the current level of introspection. With that in mind, this headline question isn't intended to crudely simplify that or create insecurities where there needn't be. Nevertheless, … Continue reading Can Brain Dominance Predict Romantic Success? 🧠💕
I don't need another panegyric, telling me that I'm "worth more" or that finding the "right one" will make things simple. I already know that - already know that I am involuntarily wasting my own time, hoping that they'll one day see me as I see them. What I really need is to learn how … Continue reading Learning to Free Yourself From Unrequited Relationships 🥀
My choices matter — and there are paths towards making wiser ones — but I cannot choose what I choose. Sam Harris Today was a real wake-up call that my brain is on the brink. It was the first time I truly realised that "me", my mind and body are totally separate entities. And yet, they … Continue reading McDonald’s and Meltdowns: The Fragility of the Mind 🧠
The heat is on. The clock is ticking. The fine lines are setting in and the hips have taken shape. All the biological signs are pointing towards having a baby, and yet, all the psychological ones are wanting to pursue anything but. By 2021, I'll have been single (and celibate) for 5 years, which … Continue reading The Single Debate: Are You a Better Version of Yourself When You’re Alone..?
"Never give more than you're prepared to lose." - It's a philosophy I like to live by every day because, even if I stick my fingers in my ears, close my eyes and cry out, "LALALALA" loudly enough, it still doesn't change the fact that some people out there are just, well... Useless. I try … Continue reading This is The One Thing That Will Make or Break Any Relationship
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